13 Responses to “Reality Check”

1. Dan Says:
   April 16th, 2008 at 11:43 am

   That doesn’t sound good.

   Are you sure you don’t just suck at being a dad today?

2. terri Says:
   April 16th, 2008 at 12:09 pm

   No you don’t. And if there’s something you’re feeling bad about, cut yourself a little bit of slack. You have a little more stress than the average person right now. Things happen.

3. lilacspecs Says:
   April 16th, 2008 at 12:16 pm

   You do realize that the very fact that you take the time to think about the quality of your parenting and to occasionally have some doubts and reassess yourself pretty much opposes this whole “sucky dad” notion…yes?

4. Mahala Says:
   April 16th, 2008 at 12:40 pm

   We all suffer from temporary parental suckiness. It’s a human thing.

5. PG Says:
   April 16th, 2008 at 3:49 pm

   Dude. I have been there. But the truth is, you don’t. Id you did, you wouldn’t think you sucked. It’s sort of like crazy people don’t know they are crazy.

   Being a Dad is really friggin hard. There are days you don’t do as good as you want to, but it’s a constant work in progress.

   Tomorrow’s a new day.

   Hang in there!

6. sophie Says:
   April 16th, 2008 at 3:54 pm

   I would have to totally disagree with that statement. There’s a line in one of my favorite books where a dad talks to his daughters he says something like, “I know I’m doing something that will make you hate me in the future, and if I knew what it was, I wouldn’t do it. However, all parents screw up their kids, and we’ll just have to deal with that when we get there.”

   Parenting isn’t an exact science. Drop some money in the therapy jar and do whatever it is better the next time. Hang in there.

7. celticbuffy Says:
   April 16th, 2008 at 11:02 pm

   Give yourself a hug instead of a mental smack. It’s not all smiles and love. Parenting sucks at times and we, as parents, have our share of times when we most definitely think we suck and aren’t cut out for it. I was married to a man who sucks at parenting, and hon, from what I’ve read, who aren’t that kind of man.

8. Meg Says:
   April 17th, 2008 at 5:53 am

   Dear darling Dan – parenthood is in the realm of “hum a few bars and I’ll see if I can fake it”. Never diss yourself for sucking as a parent. We all have those days and kids know exactly what buttons to push…or rip out all together including the precise surgical removal of your heart. Just keep humming = you’ll get the tune eventually.

9. soapbox mom Says:
   April 17th, 2008 at 6:33 am

   Wha??!!!

   Now cut that out. It’s tough for all of us (well, at least for me, too). But I simply don’t believe that statement. We’re all doing the best we can and you know what, that’s all we can do.

   Whatever happened, it’s in the past.

   Move on, my friend and take each moment as it comes.

   Yeah, whatever, what the heck do I know (as I’ve said before…).

10. meleah rebeccah Says:
    April 17th, 2008 at 1:00 pm

    heres a little secret in your ear……

    WE ALL SUCK

    yep.

    thats right.

    I said it.

    WE ALL SUCK

    we are all going to make mistakes

    we are all going to fall short

    you really need to start giving yourself some more credit.

    “you suck as a writer and a parent?”

    Um.

    No.

    You are an amazing perso.

    Maybe you need to borrow MY eyes to look at yourself?

    xxoo

    xxoo xxoo xxoo

    

    meleah rebeccah’s last blog post..Who Am I?

11. Avery Says:
    April 17th, 2008 at 5:20 pm

    Hey, I suck, too! We should carpool.

    Avery’s last blog post..Are You a Twit…terer?

12. Deb (Missives From Suburbia) Says:
    April 18th, 2008 at 7:06 pm

    I had the same thought yesterday. Great minds apparently do think alike.

    Deb (Missives From Suburbia)’s last blog post..The Sign of a Disorderly Mind

13. VickiLynne Says:
    April 19th, 2008 at 10:00 pm

    Well that was deep! The great thing is you’re not dead, so you can change it – right?

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