Pity Party is Officially Over!

Posted by danleone on November 10th, 2007 filed in blogging

You have now come to realize that Dan Leone is so deeply faceted that if you miss a few posts, you are guaranteed to throw out a piece of the puzzle. You may have noticed the non-writer writing. Perhaps you have noticed that I have no problems using my Baby Goats to stoke my joke repertoire in order to get both of my reader’s attentions (if not affections). You may have seen, buried deep in nothing I have yet written, the rational skeptic atheist who cringes at the mere mention of gods and other fantasies and superstitions. Perhaps if you were paying close attention to some of the posts I have still haven’t worked up the courage to write, a bleeding heart liberal who has transformed my feelings for George Bush from mere annoyance at Americans to downright hatred at what he has done and not done to this country.And, of course, you have seen the Dan Leone mired in self-pity recently with the stunning news of my father’s illness and how he has been assigned an expiration date of 2 years. The reason for this is easy to explain. I have grown to love both of you and I sincerely respect and seek out your opinions on everything. Whether it is how to deal with death or what book you are reading or what music you listen to when not-writing at 3AM. Your opinions are as important to me, perhaps more so than the “real” people in my life. I love that you share with me your experiences. I crave to know your day-to-day and how you manage it all. I especially love the fact that your opinions are so very different than mine.

The blogging world is filled with people that visit other’s blogs only to want it reciprocated. The “circle of life” of blogging involves many “drive-bys” and “tag-your-its” designed to get people to their site. This is mostly fine with me as it is part of the social networking schema that we all need to follow, otherwise we might as well write words on a piece of paper and throw them off a cliff. We crave this society of moms, dads, Christians, Atheists, Liberals, Conservatives, friends.

As I am sure both of you will agree, if somehow the words became only a one way street for me and I could only read them and never write them again, then I would still be visiting your blogs. It is what I need to get through my day. It is how I manage it all.

For now, the pity party is over. Of course, you will see me give you periodic updates on my father’s health and how we are coping. But, no more “What the fuck do I do now’s” or “Why me’s?” …for the time being! [wink, wink]

So, to both of you, I send a heartfelt thank you. Thank you for being there and thank you for caring and thank you for giving me something to aspire to.

10 Responses to “Pity Party is Officially Over!”

jodi Says:
November 10th, 2007 at 7:34 am
Well you have to change your “both” of us out here…I know there are more than two(unless its just the voices again) HA! I slay me..anyway back to the serious topic at hand:

I did a load of laundry this morning…Ummm I am currently re-addicted to my slipknot CD…drank lots of coffee. Ponder my existence(that took all of two minutes).
AND who stole my drive by Hi! Hey! I actually use to say hi…meh.

Well to know these “things’ sometimes all ya have to do is ask…;P

off to see what Mason is up to (HINT HINT HINT)
Teee hee…evil is a wonderful place to be at times…

Peace
GOOD MORNING!
terri Says:
November 10th, 2007 at 9:42 am
I’m glad to see you’ve decided to leave the pity party behind and begin the business of living this new stage of life you’ve been unfairly assigned. I think that shows incredible strength.
Beth Says:
November 10th, 2007 at 10:08 am
oh know – three comments – does this mean I am not one of your readers???
Deb Says:
November 10th, 2007 at 3:28 pm
I think I was officially introduced as reader #3 in a post not too long ago.
Avery Says:
November 10th, 2007 at 3:30 pm
Oh good! I thought I might have to poke you with a stick.
paisley Says:
November 10th, 2007 at 7:42 pm
i don’t feel like it was a pity party,,, it is human to test your limitations… i know you are a strong man and you will bring everyone thru this….
Gina Says:
November 10th, 2007 at 8:20 pm
Hey Dan, you are more than welcome to drop over to my place and have a pity party any time you want, I am good with pity partier’s…well really any kind of partiers…hmmm…is that bad? No really? Does that make me bad?
meleah rebeccah Says:
November 11th, 2007 at 6:10 pm
Glad to hear you are feeling better.
Lyssa Ireland Thomas Says:
November 12th, 2007 at 8:47 am
You always have my virtual shoulder to lean on. Keep that sense of humor that brings me back every day – it will get you and your family through this time. I’m thinking good thoughts for you.
Kristina Says:
November 13th, 2007 at 12:59 am
Honestly I don’t see it as a pity party when you ask those questions. Not at all. I see a man who is not afraid to open himself up to the possibility that he might not be able to fix this, that it hurts more than any one of us could know, and that he doesn’t have all the answers. I see him asking the universe (and a bunch of faceless internet names), hypothetically, how he is going to get him and his family through the next two years and beyond. I see him sharing his REAL self. And I think doing that is nothing short of incredibly strong and brave. If you STOP doing it I’ll be more concerned. If you have to be the guy who deals with something incredibly heart-mind-gut-wrenching and bury all the feelings behind a factual report of events, I truly understand. But what would be the point of blogging that? And how would that help you heal, and walk onward?

Thinking of your father, your family and you often.